Behavior Issues with 5 Yr Old

I would print a picture of a nice toy that she really really wants and tape it around an old peanut butter jar. Cut a slit in the lid of the jar and for every reward, give her some change to place in the jar. Maybe even keep a running tally of how much is in the jar and how much she has to go. That would help her with math and savings. Maybe even tell her that if she goes an entire week with no behavioral issues that she will get 5$ to put in the jar. Hope that helps

We used stickers on the calendar for our 3yo son when working on overnight potty-training. WE got one of those huge desk calendars and mounted it on the wall where he would see it every day. Each day he got up dry, he got to put a sticker on the calendar. At the end of the week if he had at least 5 stickers at first (then moved up to 6, 7), he got to pick a movie for movie & popcorn night or go to the park, etc.- usually something free & fun. At the end of the month with stickers on every day except a couple in the first 10 days, we got him something he'd really been wanting. It doesn't have to be expensive, as long as it's something he's excited about & will be motivated by.

Now we're working on chores with the same system (at almost 4, he just has to feed the cats every day). It seems to work great for us!

Just remember that this too shall pass- my brothers (who I took care of) went through behavior issues pretty bad depending on different changes in their lives, but they always passed once things settled down. Maybe her issues resurfacing has to do with the transition from preschool to being home with you & her bro all summer and now to kindergarten..? Best wishes to you & your family.

This could be viewed as pretty drastic but there is Applied Behavorial Analysis therapy, ABA. I don't know where you live but there are offices all over that do this and may be of benefit in helping you shape her behavior. Your daughter sounds pretty stubborn. The other ladies offered good ideas but I am wondering if they will really be effective with a 5 year old with behavior issues. Often you can find ABA clinics advertised in those free magazines found in stores. I know one is called the Shape of Behavior. Hope that helps.

One thing that a psychiatrist recommended for my son was a behavior chart. He gets a sticker for good behavior at school. Every sticker earns him a token. Then, when he earns a certain number of tokens, he gets to pick something from his treasure box. (New die cast cars in his case.) It can still be something inexpensive. The beauty of this is that they don't have to start out consistant to earn a reward, and you can easily lengthen the time it takes to earn a sticker/token.
My son looks forward to earning a sticker everyday, and there is no confusion over stickers and tokens.
Just remember that it is a proccess that will take a while. Sounds like she has fabulous teachers with tons of patience. Just keep those lines of communication open, and you can work together to get her back on track.

Good Luck