Help! Daughter Acts like Hannah Montana

Updated on November 12, 2008
K.F. asks from Surprise, AZ
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I have a 8 year old step daughter that primarily lives with myself and my husband that has been talking and acting extrememly sassy. She watches Hannah Montana and we have tried to explain to her that you can't act like that in real life and have people want to be around you. Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this without squashing her spirit? I feel like I am always on her saying, "watch your tone of voice" "can you find a nicer way to say that" and other things. I feel like I have to say it all the time. Any ideas will be appreciated.

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D.K.

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Hi K., I had never watched Hanna before this weekend and the thing that struck me was I thought it was a terrible show for teen and pre-teen girls. She is overly made up, and totally disrespectful. I also realized my neice, who watches the show, talks and acts just like her. You have to decide what you will allow her to watch and how you will allow her to treat you. Are there any other shows she can watch that are geared toward her age and show more respectful interactions?? I don't know myself but I would look into that. Also, maybe you could try talking to her the way she talks to you so she can hear how she sounds. Of course you would want to explain what you are doing and why. Maybe she doesn't understand the way she sounds since it is what she sees on TV.

I don't know if this helps but I have to say, I will be checking out everything my daughter watches and approving of it. (easy to say since my daughter is only 21 months old).

Good luck!!

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B.D.

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I have 3 girls 12,8,and 6 they watch all those shows and I have had no problem with them acting like them, they know its just TV.. Do you think she could be getting the attitude from some friends at school or something else.. Or maybe I am just the luck one!!!

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M.L.

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I am with you and agree with Angela and Jaimee's responses. I too have a 5-1/2 year old that thinks she can act like a teenager. It is so frustrating to see my innocent baby grow up and those shows are not good, I believe, for our little ones to watch. I won't let her watch Disney channel after the morning pre-school shows are over. Disney definitely targets the older pre-teen age group after 12:00pm. I think that school also has an influence on our childs behavior right now too. We just need to be diligent and keep on them about how to act and treat others. I tell my daughter that if she keeps acting that way, (bratty and with attitude) she will not have any friends. I have also put soap in her mouth once or twice!Good luck!

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K.B.

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Hi K.
I have an 8 year old daughter in love with Hanna too and i dont know if it is the tv show or what but i hear ya on the sassy attitude mine isnt going to have any friends if she keeps it up. what i have done is limit the amount of time she spends watching that stuff and i keep reaffirming being kind and not being so bossy. I get very frustrated also she doesnt treat her friends that nice or her little cousins either. I guess being consistant and leading by example is what i am going to try to do if you think of any other way to get it across to the girls please let me know so far i see a bit of improvement but she definately thinks she knows it all and i am sure all those teenage shows has something to do with it. Good luck
K.

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A.M.

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I Have 3 daughters- the oldest of whom is 11 and we have a strict 'NO Hannah Montana' rule in our house. We don't let them watch any of the Disney shows geared at this age group- for that very reason. They all feature overly make-uped inappropriately dressed CHILDREN acting like adults. I am not a super strict mom by any means- but those shows set a horrible example and are a waste of brain function. It will be hard at first- but I'd say cut her off before things get worse. Good Luck!

A.B.

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I think maybe the best policy is to only let your kids watch shows where the kids act as they should. It's hard to find shows these days where the kids are respectful. We just have to be very careful about who our kids have as role models.

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J.K.

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My daughter is the same way. We don't let her watch those shows anymore which helped dramatically. At first we told her she couldn't watch Disney Channel temporarily because all of the shows Hanna Montana, Zac and Cody, Raven etc. made her act up. After a little bit, we let her start watching again but warning her to watch her behavior. But sure enough, she started acting sassy again so we banned her permanately. We don't have cable anymore so it isn't even an issue but we did ban her from watching those shows even when we had cable. It helped a lot. She is totally fine now. Good luck!

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