how can i get them to listen to us? my 5 year old never stop from time he gets up to the time he goes to bed..ive tried everything from time out to spankings..I talk n talk n talk..ive had n emotional breakdwn just from him alone my 4 year old isnt as bad sometime he gets out control only when his bro gets him going..if my 5 year old aint making his noises like ive mentiond hes gettin into some trouble..it seams like he hsa a low attention span ...he also does the screams in his sleep..my 4 year old dont have that prob his problem is that he has a short fuse..please give me some advice on how to get them to listen cause nothing is helping? And thank you ladies for the advice on his sound will call the pedi tom thank you again..........now i have this problem for people to answer or try to help answer
many times it has to do with parents responses or more importantly consistence. I would cut out ALL sugar and corn syrup. literally after i give my kdis a fruit snack they are BOUNCING OFF THE WALL. it could be he needs to see a psychologist but i'd try that first. and make sure he's getting enough sleep, my daughter is HYPER when she's over tired.
Are they.... getting enough sleep?
Sleep deprived kids.... actually sometimes get more 'hyper'... and behaviorally at their worst... and just slap-happy in a naughty way... and they can't listen well nor concentrate... nor, control their impulses.
Do your kids, get enough sleep? Daily? If not, it just escalates and a domino effect of lack of sleep... just gets worse each day.
It even affects behavior in school...
What is their Dad/Your Husband.... doing about it?
Are they home all day? Sounds like maybe they are bored and acting out??
It will really help if you can post specific things that each child does and what events surround it. That way I think you can get much more concrete suggestions that you can implement.
My son is 5 next month. He has a lot of energy and needs to get out and run around daily (outdoors or a large indoor space). We have a mini trampoline if getting out is impossible.
As others have said, many kids get hyper when overtired. After my son gave up his nap at 3 we had to adjust his bedtime a lot earlier. With a nap he went to bed at 9 but with no nap he should be sleeping by 8 (in bed 15 to 30 minutes earlier).
I can't tell if your son meets the clinical description for ADHD. You could try talking to the pediatrician and see if they think he needs an evaluation. If he is in school it might be worth seeing what the teacher thinks too.
I've used discipline tips from 2 books; 1 2 3 Magic and Setting Limits with Your Strong Willed Child. Counting to 3 or even 5 works well in some situations. The other book has a variety of suggestions. Sometimes a time out or spanking works. I find taking away a favorite toy for a short while works as a consequence. Being consistent with a consequence works. But it takes work on your part (pick 3 or fewer things to change at a time).
My kids act up when they are bored or I am in the middle of doing something else. Sometimes it helps to get them started on an activity and play for a few minutes with them before you start whatever you need to do. Play doh or crafts at the kitchen table when I am making dinner is a good one in our house.
