What Do to About Job

Hi T.,

I read your response and the responses of the other moms and they all have some great ideas, but have you ever checked out working from home? We just celebrated a mom who now earns an extra $400 a month to purchase a the minivan of her and her hubby's dreams this past Tuesday! She earns now about $50,000 on an average per year and she works part time! She's a mommy of three little ones, and they are babies!! My other friend just retired her husband who had a six figure income! She too has three young children. You can have what you want. Don't let anyone tell you differently. I used to settle until I came across this company. I never imagined that their was a company out their that had the integrity that I was looking for and the "NO RISK" factor. Our company is registered with the Better Business Bureau. There is an opportunity out there that fits the bill your looking at. We "teach" about wellness products. It's both of the things you were looking for. If you would like to hear more, feel free to call me on my cell: ###-###-####. or e-mail me at ____@____.com

The company has been around for over 23 years and they are actually breaking ground as I write to build another manufacturing facility to house their "foods" that they will be producing.

Many blessings to you,

My heart understands how you feel wanting to be at home with your baby. I was blessed to have the privelege to do so.

J.

Hi T.. I just wanted to add that I think there are a LOT of moms out there who are feeling the exact same way. I certainly am, and I hope I can make you feel a little better by telling you it could be worse. I dislike my job too & hate being away from my daughter, but I HAVE no choice but to keep at it. My husband & I had a restaurant & we went out of business last year because of the economy. We ended up going through bankruptcy & still owe money because of that whole deal. I took this job because I was unemployed & needed some kind of income as well as the insurance for my family. (And let me add that it pays a lot less than what I am accustomed to making). My husband, who used to make 6 figures in IT (pre-restaurant days) STILL has not found a 'real' job. He's working construction, which, as you know, is very unreliable right now.
So, you see, it could always be worse. I struggle with this daily too, but try to focus on the good things in your life, like your healthy, wonderful children. There are wonderful women out there who can't have children and will never know the joy of being a mother. And remember, nothing lass forever. This economy has to turn around soon and all of our lives will get better eventually.

I agree that you should stick it out...but perhaps there are a few things that can help temporarily. Could you change your hours? Perhaps you could start at 6AM before the kids are even awake allowing you to be home earlier and spend more time with them.

Also, a nice mindset change always help...tell yourself you're taking care of your family, you're doing what's best for your children, and journal your feelings...it'll help!

Best of luck!

Unfortunately I think right now you need to stay put. It seems like your job is the stable one between you and your husband and I don't think you want to do something rash and then have him lose his job. That would be a lot of stress and you would be just as unhappy. Stick it out until the economy turns around and then decide what to do.

You're not being a spoiled brat because you want to fix something that isn't working, however, you already know that you have to do what's best for the whole family, even if you are the one suffering.

As others have mentioned now is not the time to take too big of a leap of faith. You need to wear the "hat" of what it would be like to go back to school, lose most of your income, and/or health insurance for your family. Would that be the best for your family, even in the long run? As far as becoming a teacher, please reconsider this. It is very difficult to find solid employment as a teacher in the midwest, especially now with all of the budget cuts. The pay is low and the hours are really long. It's not as rosy as it looks from the outside. Nursing, however is somewhat economic proof. And, there is a better chance of working part-time with good money.

But, ideally, it sounds like you need to re-invent yourself with what you are doing. The first step is realizing that you are not happy and working to your full potential (you've done this!). What would you change about your attitude? Your work ethic? Your work setting? Spend some time with your hubby and come up with a list of things that you would like to do better and go in on a Monday and treat it like it was your first day on the job. Treat your new boss like you've never met her before and set forth to make a good "first" impression. Re-decorate your work space with fresh pictures and plants. Give your desk a thorough cleaning and re-organize. Change your wardrobe and maybe get a new 'do.'

I suggest all of this because about once a year (while teaching), I'd hit a wall and certain students would start to wear on me. I realized that I couldn't leave my job and no one was benefitting with me being so ugly. So, I took a weekend or holiday break(with my husband's help) and redressed the classroom, cleaned my desk out, wrote out some new goals, and became inspired again. The students responded extremely well to my new positive demeanor and we got the work done.

Step back, take a breath, change what you can fix, and set a good example for your children.

Good luck to you!

I agree that you have the best job between you and your husband. You have to do what is right for your family for now. I worked at a job that i really disliked for 4 years. it was so bad i was in tears nearly everyday when i got off work. but i pushed through and like another poster said we cut out all of the extras while i was still working. we managed to save up a good amount of money that has allowed me to be home for a year and a half. things are tight but my husband has a good job. eventually you will get to where you want to be but for now you will have to treasure the time that you do have with your family. try to not focus on what you don't have. You have every right to be frustrated right now it is a frustrating time for everyone. I hope that your wishes will be reality someday. hang in there!

I feel for you! My boyfriend lost his job last month so he gets to stay home with our 1 1/2 year old son. My first thought when he became unemployed was "I wish it were me!"

It's tough to be a mom, employee and part-time student. I want to be home more, but I also want to get the school out of the way so I can be there when he's older. Right now, I can leave and come back and he didnt even notice I was gone. I also really enjoy being at class and meeting new people. Sounds selfish, but I probably wouldnt even be going back to get my Master's if it wasn't for my son.

Can you be flexible with your hours? This semester, I have 2 labs in the afternoon. I leave early from work and then I dont miss out on time spent with family in the evening. If your job can allow you to work longer on days you don't have class, you could get it all in.

Ugh, I've been there.

I would stick it out until you find something else. Step up your job search and look for something part time. Also, if you want to teach, look into college programs so you can get certified. I know in NE, we have one college that has a weekend program. You go every Saturday and after a year or so you are fully certified to teach.

In this economy and with your husband's job potentially becoming unstable, I would not quit. Would you be able to support your family with a part time income?

Good luck!

I agree, you just have to stick with it for now. It would probably be very hard for you to find a part-time job right now...or ANY other job. And if you did quit, and your husband lost his business altogether, then what? Wait until his business picks up [or if it doesn't, he may have to change his game plan too] and then reassess what your options are.

stick it out and start putting money aside (cut things you dont need too: go to standard package on cable, cut out going to the coffee shop etc...) then when the economy gets better (fingers crossed), you can find a more supportive work environment where you could work part time. if you save money, you will have the cushion to make up for it!! it is hard being a working mom, but especially hard when your boss is a witch. Perhaps you can even start looking for another full time job...hang in there, you need to find balance between work and mothering!!