Word My Son like to Use

Many times kids will say this if they have witnessed it being said or more likely if it was said to them. I know this was the case for my oldest son when he was 3. It was a very short lived thing for us. I asked him how did it make him feel when so and so said "you're not my friend" and he said sad. So I asked if he thought it would make others happy if he said it to them. He said no and stopped saying it. He never yelled it or anything. After all this my son that had witnessed all of this decided he would try to use it. So I asked him if it would make him happy or sad if his brother said "you're not my friend" and he too asnwered that it would be sad. It took probably a week longer to get it out of his system, but I stayed consistant and had my talks with him on the issue. There was even one time I talked to him and then made him sit in time out to think about how he can be nice rather than use rude words. That pretty much ended it. Good luck!

B. :)

Remind yourself this is a three year old trying to get his way, he'll use whatever ammo he has. If he's saying "I don't like you." Just tell him "Fine, you don't have to, let's pick up the toys." or "...let's finish our shopping." If you take the power out of those words he'll eventually stop using them.

I don't know the exact ages, but my mother swears I did this to her. She would simply look at my and say, "That's OK, I love you." I eventually stopped. I think it's best to combat this with a positive spin. I like the suggestion of saying it's OK for him to have those feelings, but we still have to finish what we're doing. He's doing it all for reaction, try to stay calm and take the reaction away. Good Luck!

I've always responded with, "That's okay cause I'm going to love you anyway" and be done with it. He's not old enough to really rationalize feelings. Acting hurt is just going to give him a pay off you don't want to give.

It's time to stop taking the things that little ones say or do seriously as an indicator of our parenting. They have to go through these things in order to learn:
It's okay to be angry
but it's not okay to hurt himself, others or things.

Well, I agree w/ the other moms. And you're right, it isn't nice and it isn't acceptable. Here's another suggestion, if you aren't into spanking... use Vinegar. That's what I do w/ my girls. If they say something really naughty and they've been told before not to say it, then I get out the Vinegar, shake the bottle, wipe the lid w/ my finger and then rub my finger on their tongue. I make them sit one minute for however old they are before they can get a drink or brush teeth. It works and I've only had to do it a couple of times before they got the hint. Don't have a problem now =D

Good luck!
~K.

I had trouble with my boys misbehaving when we were out. I started having my 16 year old brother sit with them in my car whlie I went into the grocery store, or if I had an errand. After about 1 month of not being able to do anything we tried going out again. I had an incident where my oldest son (6 years old at the time) started to misbehave in the grocery store. We left the cart right in the isle and I picked him up and we left. They had to sit with their Uncle in the car for another month while I went in the store. Now they behave, keep their hands to themselves, and don't scream and yell or throw a fit. Every now and then we'll have a "bad" day and I'll give them a warning and that will ususally get their attention. I know it's hard, but you just have to stick it out and show them you're not a "push over". Being a single parent you have to "be the boss", there is no way around it. If you don't make them understand when they're young it will only get worse the older they get. Always explain why they got in trouble after their punishment is over and make sure you tell them even tho they get in trouble you still love them. Being a parent is not easy, and being a single parent just doubbles the difficulties. Remember, "Anything worth doing in life is NOT easy" Good Luck. :-) and remember to smile

I think this is fairly common behavior. He says these things in an attempt to get you, as well as others, to give him his way. My oldest has done this to me and I just say, "Well, maybe you will feel differently tomorrow, I will never stop loving you." Here are two possible situations and since I don't know which one you are in, here is both;

I use to say that all the time when I was very little and I did it because I knew my mom wanted more than anything for me to be happy with her. When I wasn't, if I was mean enough she would give me my way if I kept at it long enough. If this could be the case, do not give in no matter what. Once he realizes you are the boss he will back down.

I am not saying you are like my mother, I am completely aware that children can be mean without a cause just because they don't know how to comunicate their feelings effectively. If this is the case set the example by first letting him see effective communication in you. Then, when he will let you start walking him through doing it himself.

Most importatnly, one of the best lessons I have learned is not to fear every little thing about my parenting. Nobody is perfect. As a parent, I will make mistakes. Thankfully, children are not as easy to "screw up" as we tend to think.

my son dos the same thing to me i put in time out and he is tryin to get ur atenson to and to get a reactison out of you and his babysiter

My daughter did that at that age. It got to the point where she would say it and i would look at her and say well i love you and you are my friend for life and she finally stopped it might take awhile but you could try it.
good luck